Before it got out of the bag.
Potential fiancee “the loss adjusters who were due to appraise the damage to my car are running an hour late so we’ll have to reschedule“
Wendy “Have you got time now? Can we do this over the phone?”
Potential fiancee “yes sure” (I do sooo love the sound of ‘YES’! He puts me on speaker phone)
Wendy: “…(unpublishable talk about my job)…”
Potential fiancee “..(Rabid typing and witty comments. Keeps his loss adjuster waiting 15mins to wrap-up call with me)…” Later that morning I send promised documents to potential fiancee who replies telling me what you already know, that I ROCK! and providing lots of little juicy promises to make my work life easier.
I could have married him on the spot.
Company harrassment policy made me think twice about announcing the offer. I’ll keep it on hold until I’ve worked out if he’s a player
Wendy Easily-pleased
Fifth reflection on collective symptoms of what North American’s call a ‘player‘*. #5: Busy Busy Busy!
The player is very busy because the player is sufficiently desirable to be irreplaceable and needed by others for something. The players notion of their importance and value is clearly conveyed here. This busy-ness is often strategically used as an escape clause and the source of preening.
This shows as normal life activities on a ridiculously ‘tight’ schedule. Lack of effective delegation or negotiating realistic schedules.
Players either don’t realise they can, or want to, manage everyday busy-busy-busy-ness down to merely busy-ness.
W too-busy-to-whatever
* No single symptom can lead to a reliable diagnosis of a ‘Player’. This ‘disorder’ is not yet recognised by the DSM IV.
This photograph made gray, rain and carparks feel romantic. The single street lamp seems courageous. Having felt the cold and seen the snow drifts so unfamiliar to me adds something special to this picture.
No puking, I get soppy, get used to it.
I’ve made this picture my ‘desktop background’ it compliments the XP ’silver’ theme quite well.
