On facebook I have some ‘friends’ that I barely know, I met them a few times and they seemed like nice people. They were friends of friends, and in that sense had a good pedigree.
One of these people is a professional woman, probably in her mid 30’s. I follow her status posts with fascination because I’m intrigued by the possible back-story, the things she doesn’t say. These are some of the key focus points of the things she has said in the last 6 months
- Bought a new house
- Bought a flash convertable sports car
- Had a fabulous sailing holiday with friends – drinking, relaxing, sunbathing, partying
- Went to my first ever weekend music festival, camped, had a brilliant time
- Had a fabulous night out with the girls (photographs of happy people)
- Had a fantastic house party – photographs of people looking drunk and smiling.
- Has new 42″ plasma TV attached to the wall in her bedroom (updates facebook from bed – windows phone)
Somehow I read into these posts that she is an unhappy, lonely, person. Someone trying to convince either us or herself that she’s having a good life. By limiting her status posts to acquisition of socially significant items and engagement in ‘popular’ social activities she is only mentioning things that are cultrually defined as aspirational.
In my imaginary backstory she’s just got divorced, is painfully lonely and trying to fill the gap created by the pain of a failed intimate relationship and let her friends know she’s ok – don’t worry. Either that or she is as shallow and superficial as her facebook status convey at face value….